It’s been a busy week! Last week, I attended a spanking party, hosted a littles party, went to Atlanta for a session, went to Ann Arbor, Michigan for the MDSS Naughty List Review Party (What a fun party!) and now I’m back home. I’ve been busy on NiteFlirt talking (1-800-TO-FLIRT ext: 9544179) and texting with some very kinky, very naughty people. The weather is supposed to turn frigid here in the next day or so. I hope it will feel more like Christmastime to me then. I plan on slowing down for the next week or so – that won’t stop video, it’s already edited and ready to go- but I’d like to do some baking and wrap presents. I’ve been listening to Christmas music since the day after Spanksgiving, it’s sick-I know, but I can’t help myself. What are your plans for the holidays?
I wanted to let everyone know that Momma Kay and I will be available for double Mommy sessions beginning in January. We will also do some spanking sessions together if you’d like to see us in Colorado send me a contact form. If you’d like us to come and visit you in your state, send me a contact form with as many details as you can, including state/city, your name, date you’d like the session and any session details you can think of. Please keep in mind that my schedule will be off due to the holiday and it may take me a while to get back to you.
I’d like to thank each and every one of you who follow me, book sessions, buy video and support me. You are the greatest gift! I am thankful and grateful for each and every one of you! I wish you the merriest of Christmases – happy holidays to those of you who don’t celebrate Christmas – and wish you the spankiest New Year EVER!!
People get away with far too much these days, yourself included. That’s right, I said it. You think you can get away with rude, selfish behavior because no one’s watching you. You think you can break the rules & laws because you don’t have anyone to tell you not to, or at least not anyone who will, literally, crack down on your rear end. There is no justification for your behavior. Your anger, selfishness and impatience go unpunished and that’s all about to change.
You need to fear the consequences of your actions. If you even think about stepping out of line, you need to know that you’ll be taken to task. Every transgression, disobedience and infraction will be dealt with accordingly. You need someone who won’t hold back when you need a good tongue-lashing, followed by some serious behavior modification therapy. You need to take this seriously, because I am talking to you. My finger is pointing at you- don’t you look over your shoulder as if I mean the person behind you or next to you.
You need someone in your life who is going to make you sit up and take notice of other people’s needs and desires, not just your own. Someone who will keep you on the track to success. Someone who won’t listen to your whining, your attempts to finagle your way out of consequences or who ignores your most shameful behavior. And guess what? That someone? It’s me.
You no longer have any acceptable excuses for why you can’t find someone who will take all of the necessary steps to keep you in line. I sit here before you, empty lap, awaiting your descent over it- to take every last bit of punishment you deserve; every last swat and smack you need to stop playing the martyr and get your act together.
Do you know what I’m going to do with you when you come to see me? I’m going to spank your naughty bottom. Yes, I’m going to spank, paddle, hairbrush, spoon, strap, belt and cane your backside until you can’t sit down on it. I’m going to teach you a lesson you will never forget and you are going to appreciate that I care so much. You are going to get to a point when you know you need to see me because you feel out of control. You always say how you feel like you need discipline in your life and now, you know just where to get it and it’s all because I told you so. Book now.
This week has been filled to the brim with filming and sessions! The weather has cooled down in Colorado. It was rainy and cold most of the week, which made me want to snuggle up in a warm blanket and watch Netflix, but no time for that. Instead, I got to warm my hands on some cute backsides while setting their naughty little bottom’s on fire. I don’t think anything could have been better! I’ve finalized my travel schedule for the year and look forward to meeting many of you on those travels. If you’re still “thinking” about requesting a session, you’d better hurry up and do it, time slots are filling quickly.
@MichaelDonovan and @CherishMommaKay were in town this week and we spent two days filming all kinds of great content!
Are any of you going to Crimson Moon? This is my first time attending and I’m very much looking forward to it. If you have any pointers or suggestions on things I must see or do, I’d love to hear them. If you see me there, please say hi. It’s always nice to put a face with a name. That’s it for today. I’m going to go and rest up for more filming and sessions tomorrow.
Think about when you were a child and got into enough trouble that you were going to be spanked. Did your parents pause and ask how much you could take? NO! Did they ask you which implement you’d like them to use? Never! Did they hear you cry and stop to rub your bottom? Probably not. Did they pause, twenty swats in to ask if you’d had enough? Mine sure didn’t. If you want a realistic domestic discipline spanking with me, you get very little say so in it.
I had a session today where, as always, limits were discussed via email prior to. The limit set was no bleeding; I could bruise, blister and mark his bottom but I was not to make him bleed. Aside from that, he wanted me to give him a spanking he couldn’t handle but had no choice other than accept and go along with it. He wanted a “real childhood type spanking” he would have received from his mother. It was left up to me to decide when he’d learned his lesson and therefore had had enough. (Now, I’d like to mention that this is a regular client of mine. I know what his limits are and push them whenever possible. However, he trusts me and I would never do anything to jeopardize that. Yet another reason to see a Disciplinarian regularly but, I digress)
There were no safe words given, no choices for him to make, he didn’t care how long or short it was or what implements I used. He provided me with the reason he was being spanked, a few phrases his mother would have said, then he showed up for his appointment and I gave him a very severe spanking.
He gave up his constraints, let his inhibitions loose, his guard down and bawled like a baby. He cried out that it hurt and he asked, multiple times, if it was over. He had carried guilt about this naughty act for nearly forty years and felt he’d never received his just punishment for it. Do you know what he said when I finished? “Thank you, Ma’am. I really needed that”. He was so relieved to take his penance, that the only thing he could do was thank me when it was over.
I receive so many emails saying, “I want a true domestic discipline scenario”, I have asked my wife (or husband) but no matter what I say, she (or he) can’t bring themselves to hurt me. I understand not wanting to hurt a loved one, I also understand that this isn’t always a want but more likely a need. Spanking can be therapeutic, a release, it can also be beneficial emotionally. People who aren’t hard-wired like we are don’t understand that. I’ve chatted with more than enough people to know that you usually can’t convince someone to give you a spanking and if you do, their spanking isn’t going to convince you that their heart was in it.
I’m happy to help coach your husband or wife so that they feel confident that they are applying the correct techniques in a safe manner. (Yes, I see couples.) Or, if they just can’t bring themselves to do it, I would be honored to spank you; not only spank you but make it harsh enough for you to get creative in trying to find ways out of it and long enough to get past that point. Yes, I’m going to give you a spanking YOU can’t handle and you’re going to thank me for it, too.
Spanks and hugs,
October 13 & 14– Omaha, NE – Travel rates
October 26, 27, 28th Schaumburg, IL – Event rates
November 10, 11, 12th Portland, OR – Travel rates
December 15 & 16th I will be presenting Erotic spanking for couples at
The MDSS Naughty List Review Spanking Event in Ann Arbor, MI – Event rates
December 17 & 18th Long Island, NY – Travel rates
Please note– Event rates are $225 per hour at all spanking parties and events- no deposit needed. Travel rates and deposit apply for all other trips. Please send a contact form to book your session today.
Have you been behaving yourself this week? My guess is, NO! I’d like to start off by saying I’ve received a few contact forms with the wrong email address lately. Either someone thinks they’re funny or some of you have been rushing and adding your email incorrectly. If you’ve sent me a contact form and have not heard back from me, please re-send it. I’ve responded to all contact forms and have gotten several MAILER-DAEMON notices in return. The last one was yesterday morning from someone in Denver. That’s a waste of everyone’s time, so please, complete the contact form with care, enter your email address correctly and double check it.
*******************************TRAVEL UPDATE************************************* I will be visiting Portland, OR either October 13, 14 & 15th or November 10, 11 & 12th. I realize it’s hard to book if you don’t know when. Please send a contact form to show interest and I will let you know the dates as soon as I have them. DOUBLE CHECK YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS ENTRY!
I will be attending Crimson Moons near Chicago, IL October 26th, 27th & 28th. Please book now, I like to know what I’m doing ahead of time and last minute sessions throw a wrinkle in that. Click here to book for Crimson Moons
I will be visiting Omaha, NE whichever date I don’t go to Portland; October 13, 14, 15 or November 10, 11, 12. Click here to book for Omaha, NE. DOUBLE CHECK YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS ENTRY!
I will be visiting Ann Arbor, MI December 14 & 15. Please Book here for Ann Arbor, MI– (Very limited availability.) DOUBLE CHECK YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS ENTRY!
I find myself saying, “I am so disappointed in you”, multiple times in (nearly) every single spanking video I make. I don’t say it as much in person unless I know that individual well and they truly have disappointed me. I feel like it can be a phrase that triggers a lot of guilt & anxiety (maybe a few tears) so I typically use it with care but not so much when filming. I try to make realistic clips with true emotions, reactions, scenarios (Okay, not all the time!) and consequences but the fact of the matter is, it’s just not as personal as a session or when playing with someone close to me. There are lights and cameras and it’s start and stop sometimes. Don’t get me wrong, I love making clips! I enjoy sharing a bit of my world with you and I hope you enjoy watching them. But, it’s still not quite as authentic to me and I need your help.
I’ve noticed I tend to say, “I’m going to blister your butt” frequently, too. I was editing footage the other day and thought, Wow, how many times can I possibly say that?! While it’s true, I am gonna blister your butt, I’m tired of hearing myself say it on cam. It’s like I’m stuck in a rut or something. Does that ever happen to you? You get stuck on something and can’t think of the other things you used to do or say before that? I had one of my Life Coaching clients say she was stuck when planning her menu and she can’t think of what she used to fix before. My brain went ding, ding, ding- that’s you and those two phrases! I don’t know if that makes sense to you but whatever’s happening, I’m stuck in it.
All of the processing above made me think about you and what words/sayings/phrases get you going. Whether “get you going” means crying, feeling guilty, getting butterflies from anticipation, makes you excited or feeling like you’re all ears. Whatever it is, won’t you please – please – share it?
Share those special words and phrases to help pull me out of this never ending tunnel of
“I’m so disappointed in you’s and I’m gonna blister your butt’s”. I need something fresh and new, something to grab hold of my brain and shake those hidden gems out of there. At the very least, something to make me say oh yeah, that’s a great one. I’m confident that you’re just the right person to help me!
I suppose I could just go with, “you deserve a good, sound, bare bottom spanking over my knee!”, emphasized by holding my hair brush <Insert evil grin here> That one’s reserved for my in person naughties, because let’s face it, that’s is 100% true of 100% of you that enter through Spanktopia’s door. Mwah, thanks in advance for your help.
I receive emails from Spankos, on the daily, who ask similar questions. I thought I’d put together a blog post to answer them. These answers are my own; I’m not speaking for other Disciplinarians, only myself. Nor are my answers all inclusive or written in stone, they can change as I change and grow and learn. Happy spanking reading!
Q: How do you decide what implements to use? A- If you’re new to spanking, please be honest about it! You’ll have a much better experience if you tell me the truth. If you’ve never experimented on your own, I would highly recommend doing so. Yes, I’m suggesting you spank yourself.
Now, this isn’t going to be the same as receiving a spanking from someone else but it will give you the opportunity to see what different implements feel like. Try using things from your home first like a hairbrush, small wooden cutting board, wooden spoon, leather belt (if you can) and so on. This will give us an idea of what you’re drawn to.
Then, we can test other things out during your session to confirm your findings. I understand you’re eager to get your session started but it’s advisable to try different things so I can get an idea of what implement to use for each type of session, whether that be punishment, sensual, role play, etc.
If you’re a regular client, we’ve had that conversation in the beginning and I’ve made mental note. I’m not going to ask you, so if you would like to try something new, ask me. I’m very open to changing it up and I won’t be offended.
Q: How do you decide how long the spanking should be? A: Sessions are typically an hour. Some naughties book for a longer period of time. I can and will spank you for close to an hour or more unless that is going against your limits in some way. (No blood, no bruises, etc.) This is different than if we were in a domestic setting, relationship or I was your mommy. Then, I’d spank you until I thought you learned your lesson and I was finished.
Q: How do you decide how hard to spank me? A: I’m a firm believer in the punishment should fit the crime, so, cursing- mouth soaping, driving while intoxicated- a severe spanking, on and on. However, not everyone is open to mouth soaping and if you tell me you do not want any part of a mouth soaping, I will have to get creative, but I will honor your limits.
Q: How do you decide when I’ve had enough?A: We discuss your limits prior to the session. For instance, you told me that you do not want bruising. I can’t guarantee there will be no bruising, but I will do my very best to honor your limits. If you begin to bruise during the session I might stop and discuss it with you or switch to a different spot or implement and definitely adjust the level of impact, meaning I would spank you less hard. That is all a judgment call I make in the moment and have gotten very good at over the years.
Q: What happens if I get “excited” when I go across your lap? A: This is very common. You won’t be the first, nor will you be the last. If you tend to “drip” a lot and you know it, I’d appreciate a head’s up so I can put a towel across my lap. You get extra points if you bring a towel and offer to drape it across my lap.
Thoughtfulness will always earn you a special place in my heart. You wouldn’t be in a session with me if I didn’t already know you were thoughtful because I don’t see people who are rude, crude or socially unacceptable. Of course you can be rude, crass, and downright naughty if we’re role playing, that’s acceptable, but you’d better be polite upfront or NO SESSION FOR YOU!! (Remember that when you’re corresponding with me or your email will get tossed out and you will be ignored/blocked.)
Q: What if you decide I need another punishment during my session? Say I cursed or smarted off – would I have to have a mouth soaping? A: I touched on this a bit above, but I’ll go over it again =D You and I will communicate via email prior to the session. I will ask you what your limits are and you need to list what you don’t want. I realize that most people don’t want a mouth soaping, but you may be open to it if I find a reason to give it to you. It’s also okay to say, I’ve never had a mouth soaping before but I’m open to trying it or I want a severe mouth soaping where I can’t talk because my lips are so swollen. (Yes, I’ve given this kind before.)
I hope you’re beginning to understand that open, honest communication with me is the key to having a pleasurable positive experience during your session. I enjoy reading about your fantasies and always appreciate when you include them if they are a part of what you envision during your time with me.
Q: Should I tip you? A: It’s a very nice gesture to tip if you’ve had a spanktastic experience, but its not required. I realize that some of you may have just barely been able to scrape together my hourly fee and that’s ok. If you’re able to tip, it’s always appreciated.
Q: Your rates are so high! Why would I pay you to spank me? I want a real woman to spank me. I don’t pay to play. A: To that I say, you are an ignorant asshole. Crawl back into the hole from which you came. Just because I get paid to do something I love does not make me any less of a woman.
I challenge you, oh rude one, to find a “real” woman who has/will: put years into learning safe techniques on various implements, invested a small fortune into implements, is willing to dress up for you, role play with you, set everything up an hour before you show up, take everything down after you leave, sanitize every piece of equipment that was used on you including the sheets, massage table, spanking benches or implements, travel to you and lastly, but most importantly, not permanently injure you because she didn’t know what she was doing. You might want to rethink your strategy here before turning a woman loose with an object and objective of hitting you.
These types of emails are ridiculous! Why bother to waste your time writing this or my time in reading it? Get a life!
Q: What if I have health problems? Does that mean you won’t see me? A: I needcertain information from you and I need you to be honest about it. I’m not going to turn you away because of every health issue but I might need additional information from you. If you have health issues such as Diabetes, Hypoglycemia, heart problems, bad knees or ANY medical condition that could cause you to become unconscious during our session, you need to tell me BEFORE our session.
Q: What if I can’t be bruised because my wife will find out? A: Good for you for taking care of your needs. Please don’t feel guilty about it, there’s no sex and no “cheating” here.Please don’t tell me about how your wife and you have a non-existent sex life. That’s not my business and I’m not your Therapist.I’m sorry if that sounds snooty or uncaring but I’m here to take care of your “spanking therapy”. Save that talk for the marriage counselor or your Therapist.
I ask everyone I email with before the session how they feel about bruising. Your answers can include: No bruising! -or- I’m a Masochist; whip me, beat me, make me bleed, heavy spanking’s what I need! -or- I’m somewhere in between -or- any variation of those. =D
I could go on forever here. That’s enough spanking Q&A for today. I hope this helps clear up a little confusion and aids you in getting over the proverbial hump that is booking your session. Book your session today. Do it now. Don’t wait. Because I said so…
How have you been? Spanktacular, I hope! I will be going to the Exile 6 Fetish Ball in Denver on September 16th from 9pm – 2am This is my favorite local event. It raises a lot of money for local, sex positive charities. If you’re from Denver, will be passing through that night or are feeling generous and want to donate, be sure to check out their website using one of the links above. The entertainment here is great and well worth the small pre-ticket price of $10.
This week, StrictWives, put up a little chat we had about paddles – you can watch the video here and be sure to check out the rest of the site. They have great spanking art, GIF’s and interviews!
I am going to be in Ann Arbor, MI December 15th & 16th and Long Island, NY December 17th – 18th. If you want a session, I am NOTkidding, you need to book it now! I know it seems like a long time away, but it will be here before we know it. It’s during the holiday season and we’re all busy then. If you don’t book soon, you will not get a session. I am attending the Metro Detroit Spanking Society’s Naughty List Review spanking event. I will be presenting & vending, so most likely to be booked quickly due to limited availability. If you’re within driving distance of either, you may want to consider booking because I don’t get out this way often. Okay, enough with the announcements and on to a spanking poll! Inquiring minds want to know…
Someone recently told me they were curious about Spankos and their astrological signs, which intrigued me, so I thought I’d ask. Spankos, what’s your sign?? This is, obviously, not scientific and will not be published in any fancy, schmancy “journals” that I’m aware of =D It’s just a fun bit of information to file away. If you would, please say what sign you are in the comments. I tried to create a poll but it had too many choices and won’t work. Until next time – BE GOOD!