What phrases get you going?

Hello Lovelies,

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Have you been behaving yourself this week? My guess is, NO! I’d like to start off by saying I’ve received a few contact forms with the wrong email address lately. Either someone thinks they’re funny or some of you have been rushing and adding your email incorrectly. If you’ve sent me a contact form and have not heard back from me, please re-send it. I’ve responded to all contact forms and have gotten several MAILER-DAEMON notices in return. The last one was yesterday morning from someone in Denver. That’s a waste of everyone’s time, so please, complete the contact form with care, enter your email address correctly and double check it.

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*******************************TRAVEL UPDATE*************************************   I will be visiting Portland, OR either October 13, 14 & 15th or November 10, 11 & 12th. I realize it’s hard to book if you don’t know when. Please send a contact form to show interest and I will let you know the dates as soon as I have them. DOUBLE CHECK YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS ENTRY!

I will be attending Crimson Moons near Chicago, IL October 26th, 27th & 28th. Please book now, I like to know what I’m doing ahead of time and last minute sessions throw a wrinkle in that. Click here to book for Crimson Moons

I will be visiting Omaha, NE whichever date I don’t go to Portland; October 13, 14, 15 or November 10, 11, 12. Click here to book for Omaha, NE. DOUBLE CHECK YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS ENTRY!

I will be visiting Ann Arbor, MI December 14 & 15. Please Book here for Ann Arbor, MI– (Very limited availability.) DOUBLE CHECK YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS ENTRY!

I will be visiting Long Island, NY December 16 & 17th. Click here to book for Long Island, NY. (Very limited availability.) DOUBLE CHECK YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS ENTRY!


Now, on to the blog post.

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I find myself saying, “I am so disappointed in you”, multiple times in (nearly) every single spanking video I make. I don’t say it as much in person unless I know that individual well and they truly have disappointed me. I feel like it can be a phrase that triggers a lot of guilt & anxiety (maybe a few tears) so I typically use it with care but not so much when filming. I try to make realistic clips with true emotions, reactions, scenarios (Okay, not all the time!) and consequences but the fact of the matter is, it’s just not as personal as a session or when playing with someone close to me. There are lights and cameras and it’s start and stop sometimes. Don’t get me wrong, I love making clips! I enjoy sharing a bit of my world with you and I hope you enjoy watching them. But, it’s still not quite as authentic to me and I need your help.

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Coming Friday, 9/22/17 – Paddling two naughty boys.

I’ve noticed I tend to say, “I’m going to blister your butt” frequently, too. I was editing footage the other day and thought, Wow, how many times can I possibly say that?! While it’s true, I am gonna blister your butt, I’m tired of hearing myself say it on cam. It’s like I’m stuck in a rut or something. Does that ever happen to you? You get stuck on something and can’t think of the other things you used to do or say before that? I had one of my Life Coaching clients say she was stuck when planning her menu and she can’t think of what she used to fix before. My brain went ding, ding, ding- that’s you and those two phrases! I don’t know if that makes sense to you but whatever’s happening, I’m stuck in it.

All of the processing above made me think about you and what words/sayings/phrases get you going. Whether “get you going” means crying, feeling guilty, getting butterflies from anticipation, makes you excited or feeling like you’re all ears. Whatever it is, won’t you please – please – share it?

Share those special words and phrases to help pull me out of this never ending tunnel of

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Coming Friday, 9/22/17- Paddling two naughty boys.

“I’m so disappointed in you’s and I’m gonna blister your butt’s”. I need something fresh and new, something to grab hold of my brain and shake those hidden gems out of there. At the very least, something to make me say oh yeah, that’s a great one. I’m confident that you’re just the right person to help me!

I suppose I could just go with, “you deserve a good, sound, bare bottom spanking over my knee!”, emphasized by holding my hair brush <Insert evil grin here> That one’s reserved for my in person naughties, because let’s face it, that’s is 100% true of 100% of you that enter through Spanktopia’s door. Mwah, thanks in advance for your help.

Spanks and hugs,

Ms. Kimi

Spanking Q & A…

Hello Lovelies,

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I receive emails from Spankos, on the daily, who ask similar questions. I thought I’d put together a blog post to answer them. These answers are my own; I’m not speaking for other Disciplinarians, only myself. Nor are my answers all inclusive or written in stone, they can change as I change and grow and learn. Happy spanking reading!

Q: How do you decide what implements to use? A- If you’re new to spanking, please be honest about it! You’ll have a much better experience if you tell me the truth. If you’ve never experimented on your own, I would highly recommend doing so. Yes, I’m suggesting you spank yourself.

Now, this isn’t going to be the same as receiving a spanking from someone else but it will give you the opportunity to see what different implements feel like. Try using things from your home first like a hairbrush, small wooden cutting board, wooden spoon, leather belt (if you can) and so on. This will give us an idea of what you’re drawn to.

Then, we can test other things out during your session to confirm your findings. I understand you’re eager to get your session started but it’s advisable to try different things so I can get an idea of what implement to use for each type of session, whether that be punishment, sensual, role play, etc.

If you’re a regular client, we’ve had that conversation in the beginning and I’ve made mental note. I’m not going to ask you, so if you would like to try something new, ask me. I’m very open to changing it up and I won’t be offended.

Q: How do you decide how long the spanking should be? A: Sessions are typically an hour. Some naughties book for a longer period of time. I can and will spank you for close to an hour or more unless that is going against your limits in some way. (No blood, no bruises, etc.) This is different than if we were in a domestic setting, relationship or I was your mommy. Then, I’d spank you until I thought you learned your lesson and I was finished.

Q: How do you decide how hard to spank me? A: I’m a firm believer in the punishment should fit the crime, so, cursing- mouth soaping, driving while intoxicated- a severe spanking, on and on. However, not everyone is open to mouth soaping and if you tell me you do not want any part of a mouth soaping, I will have to get creative, but I will honor your limits.

Q: How do you decide when I’ve had enough? A: We discuss your limits prior to the session. For instance, you told me that you do not want bruising. I can’t guarantee there will be no bruising, but I will do my very best to honor your limits. If you begin to bruise during the session I might stop and discuss it with you or switch to a different spot or implement and definitely adjust the level of impact, meaning I would spank you less hard. That is all a judgment call I make in the moment and have gotten very good at over the years.

Q: What happens if I get “excited” when I go across your lap? A: This is very common. You won’t be the first, nor will you be the last. If you tend to “drip” a lot and you know it, I’d appreciate a head’s up so I can put a towel across my lap. You get extra points if you bring a towel and offer to drape it across my lap.

Thoughtfulness will always earn you a special place in my heart. You wouldn’t be in a session with me if I didn’t already know you were thoughtful because I don’t see people who are rude, crude or socially unacceptable. Of course you can be rude, crass, and downright naughty if we’re role playing, that’s acceptable, but you’d better be polite upfront or NO SESSION FOR YOU!! (Remember that when you’re corresponding with me or your email will get tossed out and you will be ignored/blocked.)

Q: What if you decide I need another punishment during my session? Say I cursed or smarted off – would I have to have a mouth soaping? A: I touched on this a bit above, but I’ll go over it again =D You and I will communicate via email prior to the session. I will ask you what your limits are and you need to list what you don’t want. I realize that most people don’t want a mouth soaping, but you may be open to it if I find a reason to give it to you. It’s also okay to say, I’ve never had a mouth soaping before but I’m open to trying it or I want a severe mouth soaping where I can’t talk because my lips are so swollen. (Yes, I’ve given this kind before.)

I hope you’re beginning to understand that open, honest communication with me is the key to having a pleasurable positive experience during your session. I enjoy reading about your fantasies and always appreciate when you include them if they are a part of what you envision during your time with me.

Q: Should I tip you? A: It’s a very nice gesture to tip if you’ve had a spanktastic experience, but its not required. I realize that some of you may have just barely been able to scrape together my hourly fee and that’s ok. If you’re able to tip, it’s always appreciated.

Q: Your rates are so high! Why would I pay you to spank me? I want a real woman to spank me. I don’t pay to play. A: To that I say, you are an ignorant asshole. Crawl back into the hole from which you came. Just because I get paid to do something I love does not make me any less of a woman.

I challenge you, oh rude one, to find a “real” woman who has/will: put years into learning safe techniques on various implements, invested a small fortune into implements, is willing to dress up for you, role play with you, set everything up an hour before you show up, take everything down after you leave, sanitize every piece of equipment that was used on you including the sheets, massage table, spanking benches or implements, travel to you and lastly, but most importantly, not permanently injure you because she didn’t know what she was doing. You might want to rethink your strategy here before turning a woman loose with an object and objective of hitting you.

These types of emails are ridiculous! Why bother to waste your time writing this or my time in reading it? Get a life!

Q: What if I have health problems? Does that mean you won’t see me? A: I need certain information from you and I need you to be honest about it. I’m not going to turn you away because of every health issue but I might need additional information from you. If you have health issues such as Diabetes, Hypoglycemia, heart problems, bad knees or ANY medical condition that could cause you to become unconscious during our session, you need to tell me BEFORE our session.

Q: What if I can’t be bruised because my wife will find out? A: Good for you for taking care of your needs. Please don’t feel guilty about it, there’s no sex and no “cheating” here. Please don’t tell me about how your wife and you have a non-existent sex life. That’s not my business and I’m not your Therapist. I’m sorry if that sounds snooty or uncaring but I’m here to take care of your “spanking therapy”. Save that talk for the marriage counselor or your Therapist.

I ask everyone I email with before the session how they feel about bruising. Your answers can include: No bruising! -or- I’m a Masochist; whip me, beat me, make me bleed, heavy spanking’s what I need! -or- I’m somewhere in between -or- any variation of those. =D

I could go on forever here. That’s enough spanking Q&A for today. I hope this helps clear up a little confusion and aids you in getting over the proverbial hump that is booking your session. Book your session today. Do it now. Don’t wait. Because I said so

Spanks and hugs,

Ms. Kimi




Spankos, what’s your sign??

Hello Lovelies,

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How have you been? Spanktacular, I hope! I will be going to the Exile 6 Fetish Ball in Denver on September 16th from 9pm – 2am This is my favorite local event. It raises a lot of money for local, sex positive charities. If you’re from Denver, will be passing through that night or are feeling generous and want to donate, be sure to check out their website using one of the links above. The entertainment here is great and well worth the small pre-ticket price of $10.

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This week, StrictWives, put up a little chat we had about paddles – you can watch the video here and be sure to check out the rest of the site. They have great spanking art, GIF’s and interviews!

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I am going to be in Ann Arbor, MI December 15th & 16th and Long Island, NY December 17th – 18th.  If you want a session, I am NOT kiddingyou need to book it now! I know it seems like a long time away, but it will be here before we know it. It’s during the holiday season and we’re all busy then. If you don’t book soon, you will not get a session. I am attending the Metro Detroit Spanking Society’s Naughty List Review spanking event. I will be presenting & vending, so most likely to be booked quickly due to limited availability. If you’re within driving distance of either, you may want to consider booking because I don’t get out this way often. Okay, enough with the announcements and on to a spanking poll! Inquiring minds want to know…

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Someone recently told me they were curious about Spankos and their astrological signs, which intrigued me, so I thought I’d ask. Spankos, what’s your sign?? This is, obviously, not scientific and will not be published in any fancy, schmancy “journals” that I’m aware of =D It’s just a fun bit of information to file away. If you would, please say what sign you are in the comments. I tried to create a poll but it had too many choices and won’t work. Until next time – BE GOOD!

Spanks & hugs,

Ms. Kimi


Consequences and punishments

Hello Lovelies,

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Recently, someone asked me, “If I did X, how would you punish me?” That got me thinking about setting clear rules and the punishments if those limits were broken or pushed. It made me really mull the consequences I’ve given in the past and if they were fitting to the situation.

What I ultimately determined is that my rules are my rules and while I may become more creative with some punishments, your consequences will fit your crime. It doesn’t matter who you are or how often I see you, you will do as I’ve asked of you or you will pay a price- assuming that you’re consenting to this arrangement, of course.


Cursing, backtalk, sticking your tongue out, spitting, etc. will all receive a mouthsoaping. You’ll get a warning and should you continue to bend or break my rules, you’ll be marched to the nearest sink to wash scrub your naughty little mouth out with a good old bar of Ivory. No sink handy? I’m sure we can find some hot sauce or other foul tasting substance. I’ve heard dirt is quite unpleasant with it’s gritty consistency and if you’re going to act the part, Mr. or Mrs. Dirty mouth, you may as well look the part, too.


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Cursing, backtalk, sticking your tongue out, spitting, etc. will all receive a mouthsoaping. You’ll get a warning and should you continue to bend or break my rules, you’ll be marched to the nearest sink to wash scrub your naughty little mouth out with a good old bar of Ivory. No sink handy? I’m sure we can find some hot sauce or other foul tasting substance. I’ve heard dirt is quite unpleasant with it’s gritty consistency and if you’re going to act the part, Mr. or Mrs. Dirty mouth, you may as well look the part, too.

If you choose to, yet again, cross the lines I’ve drawn in the sand, it’s going to get even worse. Perhaps, instead of just a mouthwashing, you’ll have to hold that soap in your mouth for the entirety of your spanking. Maybe you’ll be made to bite the soap and not be allowed to rinse your mouth. Or, you might be told not to leave a single mark in the bar of soap, because teeth marks will earn you severe consequences. Forceful mouthsoaping, where I must take matters into my own hands and hold your nose to get you to open your mouth, will result in swollen lips, gagging and you may get your face slapped. Don’t. Push. Me.

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The spanking: We’ve discussed many of the actions that warrant corporal punishment in earlier posts, so I’m not going to list them here. The severity of your actions will warrant how I’m going to handle you and the situation. Sometimes you haven’t done enough to earn yourself a spanking with no warm-up. Other times, you might deserve a hairbrush to your cold fanny so you can have a burning hot, attention grabbing and behavior changing trip over my knee. Occasionally, you’ll be paddled so hard I know you will have to bend over the furniture with something to grip on to or you will wriggle yourself into more trouble.

For those of you that refuse to hold still, I’m going to give you a hard position to hold. Palms flat, on your knees, face to the floor, don’t even think of using your elbows. If you’re concentrating on doing what you’ve been told to do, you’re less likely to squirm around. I know you’re in pain but it’s imperative that you stay where you’re told for your own safety. If holding yourself in place, as I’ve told you to, doesn’t keep you from writhing around I’m going to grab you by the waist, bend you over and hold you myself.

You should really be able to control yourself enough to take your punishment without being strapped down but if I have to tie you down, I will. This is going to result in a very, very sore bottom for you because you’re already in trouble and then I have to expend more energy to keep you safe for your blistering. If it comes to this, you’d better………….PRAY!

I’d love to hear about some of your memorable consequences and punishments, leave them in the comments section. I read them all, though I may not respond.

Have a spanktacular week,

Ms. Kimi


Schoolgirl spankings: Dress code violations coming Friday 9/1/17



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Hello Lovelies,

I often think back to my childhood and go over the naughty things I did to get myself into trouble. I think about the wicked things I didn’t get caught doing, as well as the things that I did get caught for and didn’t care for the consequence (or lack thereof) I received. I feel guilty over some, shameful about others, but many were regular childhood mistakes that you learn and grow from. Do you ever look back on your past transgressions or disobedience? Do you think of alternate punishment’s you could/should have received?

We had an alley behind our house that, for years, was just dirt. One summer, they paved the alley and installed a large rectangular drain but didn’t put the metal grate on it, instead laying a board down over it. My friend from next door and I would climb down the ladder and play house and other things in there. I got the idea to sneak a couple of my mom’s cigarettes and matches and the neighbor and I met in the drain. We choked and coughed our way through the cigarettes but then began playing with the matches. I don’t know how, but I singed my eyelashes and eyebrow off of one eye.

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Everything would have been fine but the neighbor’s didn’t smoke and could smell the smoke on her right away. Not long after I got home, here came her Dad who informed my Mom that we had been smoking cigarettes. My eyelashes and eyebrow didn’t help corroborate my denial. I told a huge lie, saying Maggie had forced me to play with the matches, that she pushed one toward my eye saying if I didn’t do what she wanted, she would stick the match in my eye.

My Mom said I wasn’t allowed to play with Maggie again but I had no spankings, groundings or really any consequences at all for smoking the cigarettes.  She, on the other hand, got grounded and spanked. Our bedroom windows faced each others and her Father didn’t bother to close the curtains before he beat her butt. It looked like a bad one too, she cried a lot and every time we caught eye contact after that she would flip me off. Sorry, Maggie!

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Her Dad was an Attorney and Maggie was always threatening to sue me for different things. Maybe that spanking was Karma for all the fear I lived in from her constant threats, maybe not.

All I know is I have carried that around in my mind for the last 32 years and have always felt a little guilty that Maggie had to take a spanking that was meant for me. I know that I would have handled it completely different than how my Mother did but we can talk about consequences next week. One of the best parts of being a Disciplinarian, is helping you relive your transgressions and punishing you for them so you can let some of that guilt go. Role-playing is fun, too! Book an in-person session on SpanketySpank.com. If you’re in the US, I can travel to you, I travel monthly, or you can come and visit me in Colorado.

Please share some of your misdeeds in the comments. I read them all, though I may not respond.

Have a spanktabulous week and BE GOOD,

                     Ms. Kimi

Hold me tight and spank me right!

Hello Lovelies! How has your week been so far? Colorado has belly flopped into summer

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with a hard and unforgiving smack. It’s hot! One of my favorite things to do when it’s hot outside is to stay inside the cool, air conditioned house and spank, spank spank.

(Yeah, yeah, yeah,  spanking is my favorite thing to do year round.) I was trying to decide what my favorite spanking position is and I can’t. It’s like asking me to choose a favorite implement-impossible!

I adore OTK spankings but it can become uncomfortable for me. When I was a child, I injured my wrist and the injury never healed properly. If I spank you over my knee for an extended period of time (let’s say over 25 minutes), my wrist begins to ache. I am good at switching back and forth between hands, which helps me keep going, pain free, for much longer. So, I tend to switch around in positions- Standing, hands on your knees, bent over the bed, bent over some furniture, laying on the bed over a pillow, etc.

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I do have an extra favorite that I use with some of my clients- I sit on the bed with my back against the headboard. You put your head over my feet and straddle me, then nestle your privates between my legs. It’s a variation of the wheelbarrow that is comfortable for everyone and I can give you a little squeeze from time to time if you’re squirming too much. It works well for women too. If you’re looking for exposure, possibly humiliation, this is a good position because EVERYTHING is exposed! It can also be a nice position for a sensual, slow, teasing =)

I also enjoy the diaper position very much. It, too, can lend itself well to a bit of humiliation if that’s what you’re trying to accomplish. It gives you access to areas of the buttocks you wouldn’t have a way to get to typically and stretches the skin nice and taut so the spankee can feel everything more intensely, which is also why you should use extra care when spanking someone in this position.

So, spill the beans- what is your favorite spanking position and why??? Have a spanktastic week and stay cool!

Spanks and hugs,

Ms. Kimi


Disciplinary spankings work…don’t they?

Hello Lovelies,

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Have you been taking any time for yourself? Summer is a good time to stop and smell the roses but don’t let that take away from what’s important. We tend to let things slide during the summer and that can land in you a mess of trouble. Putting things off is how you end up in over your head and you know what happens when you wind up in the deep end, don’t you? Yes, YOU get a lengthy trip over my lap for a bare bottom spanking!


I thoroughly enjoy all aspects of a disciplinary spanking. Hell, we’re being honest here, I enjoy spanking. Period. (that’s beside the point.) From the disrobing and inspection of your naughty bottom until the last minute- with you in the corner, wanting to rub your penitent, remorseful bottom. I enjoy it all.

Most everyone I chat with, say they love the thought of the spanking, the anticipation of

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what’s to come, the scolding- it all makes for an exciting experience. When it comes down to the spanking itself, they don’t actually enjoy it until it’s over and they then enjoy the marks, the sore muscles, the feelings of relief and release. So, let me ask you this, does a disciplinary spanking actually work to help you modify your behavior?

I see many people, repeatedly, for the same scenario but it’s for a role play SCENE, a fantasy, if you will. What about when it’s for an actual transgression? Have you ever been spanked for a real misdeed as an adult and, if so, did you find it helped change your negative behavior? Or, is it more of a reward? I think I know the answer, but I want to hear it from you.

Please share your thoughts and book your session.

Spanks and hugs,

Ms. Kimi